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Today, this blog, Diary of a Doting Mom, completes 10 years of blogging. It’s a milestone that I treat with gratitude and love. Blogging has brought so much my way. I’d be remiss if I missed writing about it, so here is a post that shares 10 lessons that I hope you’ll enjoy reading.

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To be fair, I already mentioned 10 lessons on Twitter, ten days ago. Here’s the thread, if you missed it.

So what can I share today that I haven’t said already? I’m hoping that the following lessons can apply to blogging as much as they can apply to relationships.

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1. Everything happens at the right time

When I began blogging, I had no grand vision. I began a diary, as the title of the blog suggests. For almost 6 years it was just that: a journal to keep track of my days and nights with my daughter. In 2013, that changed with a single series on my blog. The yelling-less challenge took me out of internet obscurity and showed me what the blogging community could be.

As time passed, I grew as a blogger. I learnt things I’d never have learnt on my own: Buying a custom domain, moving to self-hosted, trying my hand at fiction, getting verified on Google Plus, getting a paid association with Shutterstock- all of these things happened gradually.

The best part? Blogging led to my job as an editor. I didn’t go looking for it; the job found me. So don’t stress. Things will happen when the time is right.

2. Practice makes perfect

Nothing happens overnight. On the day I started this blog, ten years ago, I wrote 3 posts. Yes, you can tell I was excited. But they were just snippets, diary entries, really. For a blog to grow, it needs consistent attention to writing quality as well as ideas.

There’s nothing wrong with writing about a walk on the beach. How you write about it and how you make it stand out from the 500 others writing about the same walk- that takes practice. Don’t stop writing.

3. Enjoy the process

As much as blogging is enjoyable, it can become a chore if you aren’t careful. Every time you feel tired instead of enjoying the blogging process, step back. Take a break. Do something else. Never do anything to the point of exhaustion or where it takes the joy away from the experience.

Enjoy blogging and it will give you incredible returns.

4. Steer clear of ranting about people

Many things annoy us on social media. Provocation is everywhere. What matters, though, is self-control. Use your blog as a space to share your opinions, your ideas and your preferences. But try and stick to the topic instead of making it about a person. This has zero value. It doesn’t endear you to the readers and it definitely doesn’t help with fellow writers and bloggers.

5. Use social media sensibly

Social media is a valuable tool for bloggers. There are multiple platforms and so many things to learn, every single day. Keep it simple. Take your time with each platform, learn the ropes and enjoy the platforms for the returns they provide. Don’t overdo anything, given the propensity to try and do everything at once. The problem is you end up exhausted and overwhelmed if you do. Don’t chase numbers. Work on relationships. These are invaluable.

10 lessons from 10 years of blogging

6. Keep some parts of your life private

As a blogger, it’s easy to fall into the trap of documenting every aspect of your life. Pause, step back and keep some things private. The world doesn’t need to know everything. Some of it should be kept under wraps. These are for both security reasons and for reasons of self-awareness. We grow by sharing our stories but we also grow by choosing what to share and how much of it we make public.

7. Plan for today

Bloggers can get tired if they are juggling a full-time job and blogging too. For this, I have a simple rule. Make an editorial calendar for the month ahead, but blog for today. This means you should work well and write well , even if it is just one post that you are working on. Give it your everything.

8. Make time for yourself

Blogging can cause burnout if you aren’t careful. So ensure that you are taking time for yourself, doing things that you love, off social media. The blog is important and needs to be nurtured. But your health and well-being are paramount. Never compromise, especially on health. Eat right, work out, sleep well, go out and meet other bloggers and spend time with your loved ones. Then, blogging remains a pleasurable activity.

9. Say No

As a blogger, you will come across many situations: brands that will want to collaborate, businesses that want free promotions and people who will want you to write for free on their platforms. Say No to the ones you are not comfortable with. Make a decision and stick to it. Do what you want to and don’t follow the herd. Work on building a brand that stands out.

10. Say Yes

Always say yes to offers of help and to people who need your assistance. Say Yes to things that make you proud, such as writing something for a noble cause. Say yes to writing on topics that will help other people, such as fellow parents. Say yes to books that make you think, writing that makes you happy and relationships that gladden your heart.

Thank you for reading me.

Thank you for making this space a place I treasure and love on the internet.

Thank you for always being there, dear readers and fellow bloggers.

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Hi there! I'm Shailaja Vishwanath, a blogger with 12 years of blogging experience and a parent to a teen. I work as a digital marketing and social media consultant. From positive parenting tips to useful productivity hacks, social media advice to blogging advice, you'll find them all right here. Welcome to my blog.


Kavita Rajesh · August 21, 2017 at 1:06 am

Congratulations on completing 10 years as a blogger. Am a recent follower to your blog and have read a few posts and loved them.

    Shailaja · August 26, 2017 at 11:31 am

    Thanks Kavita! Welcome to the blog and I hope you keep coming back for more πŸ™‚

Sadhuvi · August 21, 2017 at 2:52 am

My heartfelt congratulations on your successful completion of 10 years of blogging!!! I personally feel blogging requires good content and patience and you have both of them !!!! I too agree on your views regarding privacy and I am not comfortable in sharing everything about me on my blog…I enjoy reading your blog!!! All the best for all your future endeavors!!!

    Shailaja · August 26, 2017 at 5:31 pm

    Thank you, Sadhuvi! That means a lot. πŸ™‚

Pranay Nigotiya · August 21, 2017 at 4:26 am

Many congratulations for the 10years and best wishes for the next 10. I am sure you will continue to inspire and educate your readers in the best possible way which you have done wonderfully till now.

    Shailaja · August 26, 2017 at 5:32 pm

    Thank you, Pranay. That means a lot πŸ™‚

Sulekha · August 21, 2017 at 7:31 am

Shailaja, congratulations on your blog’s tenth anniversary. It is a milestone, I am 3 years short πŸ™‚ Some great tips on writing here, saying no is very important. We hesitate to do so and end up harming ourselves in the process. Making a blogging calendar is something I have been thinking of doing for a long time now, maybe today is the day to start planning my posts. I am going on a solo trip for the first time in my 53 years, that will be my first blog post of September πŸ™‚

    Shailaja · August 26, 2017 at 11:34 am

    Thank you so much Sulekha! Congrats and all the best for your first solo trip. How exciting! Yes, a blogging calendar works wonders πŸ™‚

Nabanita · August 21, 2017 at 7:39 am

Congratulations, Shailaja. I’m so happy for you and more happy to have found you in the blogging world. Here’s to more wonderful years of blogging:)

    Shailaja · August 26, 2017 at 11:40 am

    Thank you, Naba ! I am so glad I found you too πŸ™‚

Rajlakshmi · August 21, 2017 at 8:04 am

Congratulations on completing 10 years. Wise words … Very wise words I agree that if not handled carefully, blogging can become very stressful. It needs a lot of energy, planning and time. But then the joy of reading comments and engaging with bloggers makes it all worthwhile
You know I am your fan and of all the things you write I am so happy that I came across your blog and got to know you more

    Shailaja · August 26, 2017 at 11:45 am

    Oh I so agree. The joy that comes from blogging is unlike anything else. And finding people like you through this space is all worthwhile πŸ™‚

Shalini baisiwala · August 21, 2017 at 8:21 am

What a lovely post Shy- thank you for sharing such invaluable gems. Most of it is actually just common sense but the emotional creatures that we are, we tend to let the drama undo us.
I loved the last one the best and can say it with confidence and experience that you are one of the best at it. Countless times you have given me advise, help, support and encouragement – Thank you sounds so banal for it.
I think #10 is what I am trying to do the most if I can. And yes saying no to “paid” collabs too when they just didnt reasonate with me. I was proud to know I could say No.
Cheers to many more years of blogging & congratulations on being google verified .

    Shailaja · August 26, 2017 at 5:30 pm

    Thank you very much, Shalini! It’s been a long journey, more from the learning perspective than anything else. I’m still learning, still experiencing the heartbreaks and the setbacks but have learnt to look at things with the understanding that these are all part of the growth process. Hope that never changes πŸ™‚

Rachna · August 21, 2017 at 9:26 am

10 years, wow! Those tips are all valuable and make a lot of sense. That tip on holding back resonates a lot with me personally. Being virtual writers with an audience, we sometimes may get carried away with oversharing. I actively hold back these days, even pics. And, I do discuss with the kids if I am sharing anecdotes from their life.

Glad to have met you on this blogging journey and to have bonded over children, blogging and so much more. I wish you happiness and all that you may wish for. Great going and may sky be your limit.

    Shailaja · August 26, 2017 at 5:32 pm

    Thank you very much, Rachna. I owe you a lot on this blogging journey even though we only met a couple of years ago. Ever grateful for everything you’ve always helped and continue to help me with. Without support, this would be a very lonely journey indeed.

Sheethal · August 21, 2017 at 11:39 am

Congrats on the 10th year. I know it requires lots of dedication and enthusiasm to reach the level you reached today in this space. Keep growing more strongly and beautifully.

    Shailaja · August 26, 2017 at 5:34 pm

    Thank you, Sheethal πŸ™‚

Anamika Agnihotri · August 21, 2017 at 12:29 pm

Congratulations Shailaja for the 10th anniversary. It is when I look at mom bloggers like you and Tulika, who have been here for 10 years, I feel encouraged to see myself blogging in the long run. I enjoy the whole process and primarily the building connections part. Thank you for all your contributions to the blogosphere.

    Shailaja · August 26, 2017 at 5:35 pm

    It’s always a pleasure to meet like-minded bloggers, Anamika πŸ™‚ Thank you for being part of my blogging community.

Shilpa Garg · August 21, 2017 at 4:08 pm

10 years! Wow! That’s a cool milestone, Shailaja. Hearty congratulations! Here’s to many many more years of blogging. Loved the wise words for blogging and agree with each one of them. An editorial calendar is on my to-do list and I hope to work with that in place soon.

    Shailaja · August 26, 2017 at 5:36 pm

    Thanks Shilpa! You’re a pretty prolific blogger so I am guessing the editorial calendar won’t be too hard for you to implement πŸ™‚

Obsessivemom · August 21, 2017 at 4:18 pm

Congratulations Shailaja, this is such a milestone! It speaks of persistence and commitment. I am amazed at the way you have grown over the years and the way you have built your blog presence. I loved your points – specially those about knowing when to say yes and no. That’s important.

    Shailaja · August 26, 2017 at 5:37 pm

    Thanks Tulika πŸ™‚ What fun this journey has been, hasn’t it? I am so glad I ‘met’ you through the blog.

Soumya · August 21, 2017 at 6:19 pm

A decade? WOW! Are you amazing or what?

I’m so glad to have met you during this journey and you definitely are an inspiring woman.

Here’s to a few more decades. Cheers, Shy! <3

    Shailaja · August 26, 2017 at 5:37 pm

    Thanks Soumya. The feeling is more than mutual πŸ™‚

Tavleen · August 21, 2017 at 7:23 pm

Hello! I just discovered your blog and I’m a new follower. Many many congratulations on completing 10 years. I wish I continue my blog for that much time as well πŸ™‚ I could relate to some of the things you mentioned in this post, especially the burn out thing. Thank you for the valuable advice. I’ll keep these points in mind.

    Shailaja · August 26, 2017 at 5:38 pm

    Welcome to the blog, Tavleen and thank you for your kind words πŸ™‚ I hope you enjoy the blogging journey as much as I have so far πŸ™‚

Vidya Sury · August 21, 2017 at 7:54 pm

All the very best to you, Shailaja! What a rewarding ten years it has been, no? Glad we’ve met and are connected. Wishing you many more happy decades of blogging! Love to you!

    Shailaja · August 26, 2017 at 5:38 pm

    Love the fact that we’re connected, Vidya. All thanks to a blogging award nomination. So much we have to thank the universe for πŸ™‚

Dr Roshan Radhakrishnan · August 22, 2017 at 4:50 pm

Wonderful to see this achievement… an absolutely brilliant blog that deserves a lot more accolades.

    Shailaja · August 26, 2017 at 5:44 pm

    Thank you, dear Roshan πŸ™‚ Coming from you that means a lot!

Sid · August 22, 2017 at 7:35 pm

Congrats on the Queen-sized milestone, Shailaja.
It’s huge!
Some amazing lessons there that every person and blogger can use – whether a newbie one or a veteran.
Here’s to many more.

    Shailaja · August 26, 2017 at 5:41 pm

    Thank you, Sid. As always, I appreciate all your support πŸ™‚

Shantala · August 24, 2017 at 12:04 am

I have been only blogging for 2+ years, Shy, but I have had to deal with most of the points you mentioned, and I believe it’s a learning curve that we must all go through, though a post like this one would have been so very helpful to me when I was figuring out this thing called blogging.

And 10 years! One whole decade of this blog is definitely worth celebrating! Congratulations!

    Shailaja · August 26, 2017 at 5:52 pm

    Thank you, Shantala. In your 2 years you have managed to achieve what most of us haven’t, even in a decade πŸ™‚ I think you’ve adapted admirably to this thing called blogging.

Shilpa Gupte · August 24, 2017 at 12:54 pm

Congratulations on your blog’s 10th anniversary, Shailaja!
Wow! What a fantastic journey it must have been! May you continue sharing your story with the world. We all have so much to learn from each other!
Agree with every point here..these are just what I follow nowadays. πŸ™‚

    Shailaja · August 26, 2017 at 5:57 pm

    Thank you so much, Shilpa πŸ™‚ So glad it’s working for you.

Mithila Menezes · August 27, 2017 at 10:47 pm

I’ve been following your blog since two years, and I have never read a post that has not helped me grow better as a blogger. Lately I had been feeling guilty about not being able to post regularly on the blog, and your third point is helping me calm my nerves. Really, you’re the best

Congratulations once again on completing ten years of happy blogging, Shailaja!

    Shailaja · September 3, 2017 at 6:56 am

    You always know how to say the right things and do it from the heart too, Mithila. Thank you so much for all the support. Every time.

Natasha Sinha · August 28, 2017 at 8:19 am

Congratulations Shy on achieving this wondrous milestone. A decade and wow, what a proud moment. Like others I find a lot of inspiration in your blogs and words.
You truly are one of a kind and you make the blogosphere space very fairy tale like. Your posts on instagram and other social media always leave a smile on my face.

Continue to be the trendsetter that you are Shy. Hearty congratulations and God speed!

    Shailaja · September 3, 2017 at 6:57 am

    Thank you so much, Nats! You’re so sweet. Always. Your praise is a bit too much, though

Ashwini CN · August 31, 2017 at 11:15 pm

Congratulations, Shailaja. 10 years is a great milestone and here’s wishing you many more years πŸ™‚

Having been (on and off) in the blogging world for over 10 years myself, I completely second your thoughts on being sensible while ranting on SM and knowing what parts of your life to be kept away from your blog. In this era of instant gratification, blogging teaches you to be patient, persevere and focus on doing one thing at a time and doing it to the best of our ability πŸ™‚

    Shailaja · September 3, 2017 at 6:54 am

    Thank you, Ashwini πŸ™‚

Jaishvats · January 23, 2018 at 3:08 pm

As I read I kept nodding along ….i agree ….congrats on the achievement ….i am learning to swim and you are an inspiration btw πŸ˜€

    Shailaja · January 23, 2018 at 3:13 pm

    Aww thank you, Jaish! So sweet of you πŸ™‚

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