Today, this blog, completes 10 years of blogging. It’s a milestone that I treat with gratitude and love.
Blogging has brought so much my way. I’d be remiss if I missed writing about it, so here is a post that shares 10 lessons that I hope you’ll enjoy reading.
To be fair, I already mentioned 10 lessons on Twitter, ten days ago. Here’s the thread, if you missed it.
So what can I share today that I haven’t said already? I’m hoping that the following lessons can apply to blogging as much as they can apply to relationships.
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1. Everything happens at the right time
When I began blogging, I had no grand vision. I began a diary, as the title of the blog suggests.
For almost 6 years it was just that: a journal to keep track of my days and nights with my daughter. In 2013, that changed with a single series on my blog. The yelling-less challenge took me out of internet obscurity and showed me what the blogging community could be.
As time passed, I grew as a blogger. I learnt things I’d never have learnt on my own: Buying a custom domain, moving to self-hosted, trying my hand at fiction, getting a paid association with Shutterstock- all of these things happened gradually.
The best part? Blogging led to my job as an editor. I didn’t go looking for it; the job found me.
So don’t stress. Things will happen when the time is right.
2. Practice makes perfect
Nothing happens overnight. On the day I started this blog, ten years ago, I wrote 3 posts. Yes, you can tell I was excited. But they were just snippets, diary entries, really.
For a blog to grow, it needs consistent attention to writing quality as well as ideas.
There’s nothing wrong with writing about a walk on the beach.
How you write about it and how you make it stand out from the 500 others writing about the same walk- that takes practice.
Don’t stop writing.
3. Enjoy the process
As much as blogging is enjoyable, it can become a chore if you aren’t careful.
Every time you feel tired instead of enjoying the blogging process, step back. Take a break. Do something else.
Never do anything to the point of exhaustion or where it takes the joy away from the experience.
Enjoy blogging and it will give you incredible returns.
4. Steer clear of ranting about people
Many things annoy us on social media. Provocation is everywhere.
What matters, though, is self-control. Use your blog as a space to share your opinions, your ideas and your preferences.
But try and stick to the topic instead of making it about a person. This has zero value.
It doesn’t endear you to the readers and it definitely doesn’t help with fellow writers and bloggers.
5. Use social media sensibly
Social media is a valuable tool for bloggers. There are multiple platforms and so many things to learn, every single day.
Keep it simple. Take your time with each platform, learn the ropes and enjoy the platforms for the returns they provide.
Don’t overdo anything, given the propensity to try and do everything at once. The problem is you end up exhausted and overwhelmed if you do.
Don’t chase numbers. Work on relationships. These are invaluable.
6. Keep some parts of your life private
As a blogger, it’s easy to fall into the trap of documenting every aspect of your life. Pause, step back and keep some things private.
The world doesn’t need to know everything. Some of it should be kept under wraps. These are for both security reasons and for reasons of self-awareness.
We grow by sharing our stories but we also grow by choosing what to share and how much of it we make public.
7. Plan for today
Bloggers can get tired if they are juggling a full-time job and blogging too.
For this, I have a simple rule. Make an editorial calendar for the month ahead, but blog for today.
This means you should work well and write well , even if it is just one post that you are working on. Give it your everything.
8. Make time for yourself
Blogging can cause burnout if you aren’t careful. So ensure that you are taking time for yourself, doing things that you love, off social media.
The blog is important and needs to be nurtured. But your health and well-being are paramount.
Never compromise, especially on health.
Eat right, work out, sleep well, go out and meet other bloggers and spend time with your loved ones. Then, blogging remains a pleasurable activity.
9. Say No
As a blogger, you will come across many situations: brands that will want to collaborate, businesses that want free promotions and people who will want you to write for free on their platforms.
Say No to the ones you are not comfortable with. Make a decision and stick to it. Do what you want to and don’t follow the herd.
Work on building a brand that stands out.
10. Say Yes
Always say yes to offers of help and to people who need your assistance.
Say Yes to things that make you proud, such as writing something for a noble cause.
Say yes to writing on topics that will help other people, such as fellow parents.
Say yes to books that make you think, writing that makes you happy and relationships that gladden your heart.
Thank you for reading me.
Thank you for making this space a place I treasure and love on the internet.
Thank you for always being there, dear readers and fellow bloggers.
*Featured images: Shutterstock
Congratulations on completing 10 years as a blogger. Am a recent follower to your blog and have read a few posts and loved them.
Thanks Kavita! Welcome to the blog and I hope you keep coming back for more 🙂
My heartfelt congratulations on your successful completion of 10 years of blogging!!! I personally feel blogging requires good content and patience and you have both of them !!!! I too agree on your views regarding privacy and I am not comfortable in sharing everything about me on my blog…I enjoy reading your blog!!! All the best for all your future endeavors!!!
Thank you, Sadhuvi! That means a lot. 🙂
Many congratulations for the 10years and best wishes for the next 10. I am sure you will continue to inspire and educate your readers in the best possible way which you have done wonderfully till now.
Thank you, Pranay. That means a lot 🙂
Shailaja, congratulations on your blog’s tenth anniversary. It is a milestone, I am 3 years short 🙂 Some great tips on writing here, saying no is very important. We hesitate to do so and end up harming ourselves in the process. Making a blogging calendar is something I have been thinking of doing for a long time now, maybe today is the day to start planning my posts. I am going on a solo trip for the first time in my 53 years, that will be my first blog post of September 🙂
Thank you so much Sulekha! Congrats and all the best for your first solo trip. How exciting! Yes, a blogging calendar works wonders 🙂
Congratulations, Shailaja. I’m so happy for you and more happy to have found you in the blogging world. Here’s to more wonderful years of blogging:)
Thank you, Naba ! I am so glad I found you too 🙂
Congratulations on completing 10 years. Wise words … Very wise words I agree that if not handled carefully, blogging can become very stressful. It needs a lot of energy, planning and time. But then the joy of reading comments and engaging with bloggers makes it all worthwhile
You know I am your fan and of all the things you write I am so happy that I came across your blog and got to know you more
Oh I so agree. The joy that comes from blogging is unlike anything else. And finding people like you through this space is all worthwhile 🙂
What a lovely post Shy- thank you for sharing such invaluable gems. Most of it is actually just common sense but the emotional creatures that we are, we tend to let the drama undo us.
I loved the last one the best and can say it with confidence and experience that you are one of the best at it. Countless times you have given me advise, help, support and encouragement – Thank you sounds so banal for it.
I think #10 is what I am trying to do the most if I can. And yes saying no to “paid” collabs too when they just didnt reasonate with me. I was proud to know I could say No.
Cheers to many more years of blogging & congratulations on being google verified .
Thank you very much, Shalini! It’s been a long journey, more from the learning perspective than anything else. I’m still learning, still experiencing the heartbreaks and the setbacks but have learnt to look at things with the understanding that these are all part of the growth process. Hope that never changes 🙂
10 years, wow! Those tips are all valuable and make a lot of sense. That tip on holding back resonates a lot with me personally. Being virtual writers with an audience, we sometimes may get carried away with oversharing. I actively hold back these days, even pics. And, I do discuss with the kids if I am sharing anecdotes from their life.
Glad to have met you on this blogging journey and to have bonded over children, blogging and so much more. I wish you happiness and all that you may wish for. Great going and may sky be your limit.
Thank you very much, Rachna. I owe you a lot on this blogging journey even though we only met a couple of years ago. Ever grateful for everything you’ve always helped and continue to help me with. Without support, this would be a very lonely journey indeed.
Congrats on the 10th year. I know it requires lots of dedication and enthusiasm to reach the level you reached today in this space. Keep growing more strongly and beautifully.
Thank you, Sheethal 🙂
Congratulations Shailaja for the 10th anniversary. It is when I look at mom bloggers like you and Tulika, who have been here for 10 years, I feel encouraged to see myself blogging in the long run. I enjoy the whole process and primarily the building connections part. Thank you for all your contributions to the blogosphere.
It’s always a pleasure to meet like-minded bloggers, Anamika 🙂 Thank you for being part of my blogging community.
10 years! Wow! That’s a cool milestone, Shailaja. Hearty congratulations! Here’s to many many more years of blogging. Loved the wise words for blogging and agree with each one of them. An editorial calendar is on my to-do list and I hope to work with that in place soon.
Thanks Shilpa! You’re a pretty prolific blogger so I am guessing the editorial calendar won’t be too hard for you to implement 🙂
Congratulations Shailaja, this is such a milestone! It speaks of persistence and commitment. I am amazed at the way you have grown over the years and the way you have built your blog presence. I loved your points – specially those about knowing when to say yes and no. That’s important.
Thanks Tulika 🙂 What fun this journey has been, hasn’t it? I am so glad I ‘met’ you through the blog.
A decade? WOW! Are you amazing or what?
I’m so glad to have met you during this journey and you definitely are an inspiring woman.
Here’s to a few more decades. Cheers, Shy! <3
Thanks Soumya. The feeling is more than mutual 🙂
Hello! I just discovered your blog and I’m a new follower. Many many congratulations on completing 10 years. I wish I continue my blog for that much time as well 🙂 I could relate to some of the things you mentioned in this post, especially the burn out thing. Thank you for the valuable advice. I’ll keep these points in mind.
Welcome to the blog, Tavleen and thank you for your kind words 🙂 I hope you enjoy the blogging journey as much as I have so far 🙂
All the very best to you, Shailaja! What a rewarding ten years it has been, no? Glad we’ve met and are connected. Wishing you many more happy decades of blogging! Love to you!
Love the fact that we’re connected, Vidya. All thanks to a blogging award nomination. So much we have to thank the universe for 🙂
Wonderful to see this achievement… an absolutely brilliant blog that deserves a lot more accolades.
Thank you, dear Roshan 🙂 Coming from you that means a lot!
Congrats on the Queen-sized milestone, Shailaja.
Some amazing lessons there that every person and blogger can use – whether a newbie one or a veteran.
Here’s to many more.
Thank you, Sid. As always, I appreciate all your support 🙂
I have been only blogging for 2+ years, Shy, but I have had to deal with most of the points you mentioned, and I believe it’s a learning curve that we must all go through, though a post like this one would have been so very helpful to me when I was figuring out this thing called blogging.
And 10 years! One whole decade of this blog is definitely worth celebrating! Congratulations!
Thank you, Shantala. In your 2 years you have managed to achieve what most of us haven’t, even in a decade 🙂 I think you’ve adapted admirably to this thing called blogging.
Congratulations on your blog’s 10th anniversary, Shailaja!
Wow! What a fantastic journey it must have been! May you continue sharing your story with the world. We all have so much to learn from each other!
Agree with every point here..these are just what I follow nowadays. 🙂
Thank you so much, Shilpa 🙂 So glad it’s working for you.
Congratulations Shy on achieving this wondrous milestone. A decade and wow, what a proud moment. Like others I find a lot of inspiration in your blogs and words.
You truly are one of a kind and you make the blogosphere space very fairy tale like. Your posts on instagram and other social media always leave a smile on my face.
Continue to be the trendsetter that you are Shy. Hearty congratulations and God speed!
Thank you so much, Nats! You’re so sweet. Always. Your praise is a bit too much, though
Congratulations, Shailaja. 10 years is a great milestone and here’s wishing you many more years 🙂
Having been (on and off) in the blogging world for over 10 years myself, I completely second your thoughts on being sensible while ranting on SM and knowing what parts of your life to be kept away from your blog. In this era of instant gratification, blogging teaches you to be patient, persevere and focus on doing one thing at a time and doing it to the best of our ability 🙂
Thank you, Ashwini 🙂
You always know how to say the right things and do it from the heart too, Mithila. Thank you so much for all the support. Every time.
As I read I kept nodding along ….i agree ….congrats on the achievement ….i am learning to swim and you are an inspiration btw 😀
Aww thank you, Jaish! So sweet of you 🙂
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