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Dear Gy,

I’ve been meaning to talk to you about some of the things that you will do tomorrow. 


These tomorrows will not come all at once nor will they come one after another. Some of them will creep up on you slowly, like the first rays of a gorgeous sunrise. Others  will smack you between the eyes with the suddenness of a disoriented bat in the daytime.


Tomorrow you will. . .

. . .laugh till your sides hurt and tears stream down your cheeks,
be hurt by a friend who chooses another person to sit by at lunch time,
watch a bird take flight and wonder at how such tiny wings can support its body,
cry when a favourite pet of yours dies and leaves for that unknown space in Heaven and
float lazily on your back in a gorgeous pool and look up at the bluest piece of sky.




Tomorrow, you will. . .

. . .make memories with a new love under the starry evening sky,
watch the sun set on one of the darkest days to ever touch this earth,
take a picture of the tallest building in the world and marvel at the sight,
hug yourself to sleep, fuming at the injustice of parents who won’t let you smoke,
and run carefree down an unknown path that leads to the land of nowhere.


Tomorrow, you will. . .
. . . watch mesmerised as raindrops form beautiful patterns on the window pane,
glare mutinously at teachers who ask you not to pass notes in class,
giggle helplessly with girlfriends as they share stories of their first crush,
hug your mom and sob your heart out when your heart is broken
and gaze at the beauty of a flower that stands out from the sea of green around it.



Tomorrow, you will. . .

. . . make mistakes in your first ever examination at school,
cry helplessly when your friends do better than you at an event,
burn with jealousy when someone is picked ahead of you,
feel the anger fall away as you see the goodness of their hearts
and also realise that this is all part of growing older.

Tomorrow, you will. . .
. . . find joy in the best of friends who never let you down,
be stunned by the cruelty of people whom you considered close,
turn to pour your heart out to your closest confidante,
weep inconsolably when your character is maligned by your enemies
and look to the future when all of it will grow softer with age.


These aren’t all of your tomorrows or even a measurable fraction of them.


But all of them will leave their mark on you. They may be heartrending, touching, splendid, hollow, powerful, profound and fleeting, but you will remember them all. A few will fade into oblivion but never really disappear, not from that corner of your soul where memories live forever. 


On a dark day when you need a happy thought, your being will reach deep into that recess and fish out that one beautiful moment which made it all worthwhile. On a day when you feel overwhelmed by pride and superiority, a gentle nudge from a humbling memory will bring you back to earth, sometimes with a thud and other times like a graceful albatross after a tiring flight.


Don’t shut them out, these tomorrows. Savour them and spend them with gratitude every single time. For when you have nobody else to console you, lift your spirits or make you feel better, your tomorrows will come to your rescue and make the future a beautiful place to be.


With love from a person who is so full of gratitude for you in her life,


Amma


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53 Comments

Shilpa Gupte · June 4, 2015 at 4:07 pm

Shailaja, your post made me wish I had a daughter of my own with whom I could share my deepest feelings, my dreams for her future and my prayers for her well-being. It reminded me of the innumerable letters I wrote to my imaginary daughter, in my dreams, and cried behind closed doors because those dreams couldn't become a reality. You are truly blessed to have a daughter! Do give her a big hug on my behalf. I so wish I could do it myself.

Jaibala Rao · June 4, 2015 at 4:23 pm

This is so lovely. You know what I am going to bookmark this and keep and read it to S sometime later. Every mother is the same I guess and what I wish for him is the same what you wish for Gy. Lots of love to her, may she grow up to be the best her.

Uma C · June 4, 2015 at 4:45 pm

Such a lovely letter to Gy. Full of love and hope that can only come from a mother. I'm sure Gy will cherish these letters to her and nurture the same kind of sensitivity and positive attitude as her mother. Hugs and love to her and to you!

Vidya Sury · June 4, 2015 at 5:21 pm

Beautiful! Just beautiful! *Sniff Sniff*

Rekha Dhyani · June 4, 2015 at 5:57 pm

Every letter you write to Gy makes me respect you more as a person. This is so much love and Affection. God bless you!

Keirthana · June 4, 2015 at 5:59 pm

Life cannot be redefined better for our little ones. Gy needs just this to get through all her hurdles of life and enjoy every single thing that comes her way. Great writing Shailaja!

Shilpa Garg · June 4, 2015 at 6:38 pm

Simply beautiful! This is something that Gy will cherish the mostest as she grows up! Best wishes to the lil big girl! Hugs ♥

Geets · June 4, 2015 at 7:26 pm

This is so beautiful.. And so well crafted.. every single detail is perfect..

Cheers

Aditi · June 5, 2015 at 12:32 am

This is Soooo beautiful!!! Gy will cherish this all her life!

Aparna · June 5, 2015 at 2:17 am

Sooo lovely this one is Shailaja. Definitely going to share it with the kids when they're home from school :).

Rachna · June 5, 2015 at 3:00 am

Very sweet and oozing with love. A good lesson there. I am sure she will grow up to be a sensible lovely girl.

Shailaja Vishwanath · June 5, 2015 at 3:50 am

Shilpa, I cannot take away the pain of your longing or offer solace for the fact that you cannot see that dream become a reality. Instead, I send you lots of love to carry you through life staying as wonderful as you are, today and everyday. Stay with me and stay blessed. Always. Thank you for being in my life.

Shailaja Vishwanath · June 5, 2015 at 3:51 am

You're absolutely right, Jaibala. Every mother wants this for her children, that they grow up to be resilient beings in their own right. Every day. Thank you for your thoughtful words and warm comment.

Shailaja Vishwanath · June 5, 2015 at 3:52 am

Thank you so much, Uma. I know she will make plenty of mistakes along the way and that's fine too, since she will learn from them. I hope that her innate love and sensitivity always stay intact. Thank you for the hugs and love. Right back at you 🙂

Shailaja Vishwanath · June 5, 2015 at 3:54 am

Thank you Vidya 🙂

Shailaja Vishwanath · June 5, 2015 at 3:57 am

Rekha, I think you just made my day with that comment. To be respected is the cornerstone of a good relationship and I am glad you feel that way. God bless you too.

Shailaja Vishwanath · June 5, 2015 at 4:03 am

I certainly hope so, Keirthana. May she always find the strength in her memories and draw upon them in her hour of need. Thank you!

Shailaja Vishwanath · June 5, 2015 at 4:03 am

Thank you so much, Shilpa 🙂

Shailaja Vishwanath · June 5, 2015 at 4:04 am

Thank you Geets 🙂

Shailaja Vishwanath · June 5, 2015 at 4:05 am

I certainly hope so, Aditi 🙂

Shailaja Vishwanath · June 5, 2015 at 4:07 am

Love and hugs to you, dearest Apu <3 Thank you for sharing it on your wall as well 🙂

Shailaja Vishwanath · June 5, 2015 at 4:08 am

I hope she always uses sense and sensibility to drive her forward, Rachna, as much as love and compassion to guide her ways. Thank you so much 🙂

Mithila Menezes · June 5, 2015 at 4:52 am

This letter you have written for your daughter Gy made me weep.. And I'll tell you why..
The tips about tomorrow that you've given her touched a cord in my heart.. Coz I could really relate with all this! I mean, I'm 100% sure that all of your readers have been touched by this. In a way, they've all been to 'tomorrow' and back to the future!
But I feel, that maybe it made me weep coz I've just experienced almost all of the 'tomorrows', and am currently experiencing them too! All those bittersweet memories kept flooding back..

I really do hope your lovely daughter grows up to be just like you! And I do hope she reads this letter before she steps out into the real world.. Lots of love and kisses to this fabulus mom-daughter duo!

P.S. The link to this blog post is getting shared on my college WhatsApp group as I type this.. My friends really love your blog posts! And I'm sure they'll <3 this one too! 🙂

iwrotethose.com · June 5, 2015 at 6:49 am

Perfect. Enuf said! 🙂

Soumya · June 5, 2015 at 6:53 am

Just got to work and you made me cry. People are staring at me now 😛

Such a beautiful piece this one. Gy should be proud of having you as her mommy dearest.

Ls · June 5, 2015 at 7:08 am

Makes me wish I had a daughter who will read it and understand it. With my bwoyz, I can't expect it. They feel I write mushy and girly stuff only. Its beautiful. The pictures go well with it, especially the raindrops. Its dreamy.

Shailaja Vishwanath · June 5, 2015 at 9:50 am

Mithila, if this post touched a chord with you, I am very glad. Yes, the moments are bittersweet and as long as we learn from them and move on, without clinging to the past, they can be a great source of renewal. Thank you for your kind words about my daughter. Many thanks for sharing my post. What else does a blogger want? 🙂

Shailaja Vishwanath · June 5, 2015 at 9:53 am

Thanks 🙂

Shailaja Vishwanath · June 5, 2015 at 9:56 am

Well, it was about time someone broke through that tough exterior 😉 I hope you took pictures 😀

Thanks babe. Thank you very much 🙂

Shailaja Vishwanath · June 5, 2015 at 9:59 am

I am pretty sure they will come around to reading stuff like this at a later stage, Lata 🙂 Don't worry. Thank you for reading and for your kind words 🙂

mythoughtstheyare · June 5, 2015 at 11:50 am

I can't get enough of it!!! Very nice Shailaja. I always end up reading your posts at least thrice
Beautifully written

nibhz · June 5, 2015 at 11:54 am

That was lovely and heart touching!!

Shailaja Vishwanath · June 5, 2015 at 12:30 pm

Madhavi, thank you so much. Each time I hear someone say this, my heart just lifts , I really mean it. Thank you once again 🙂

Shailaja Vishwanath · June 5, 2015 at 12:32 pm

Thank you Nibha 🙂

Chicky · June 5, 2015 at 4:45 pm

I was thinking about my mom as I read this beautiful letter to your daughter. I wish my mom had been able to tell me about all these “tomorrows” before she passed away without even saying goodbye. I'll tell you one thing as a daughter… “tomorrows” don't feel so special without your mom around. The joyful ones don't make you that happy anymore because your mom isn't around to share your joy with or be proud of you. The sad ones become all the more painful because you no longer have your mom's warm embrace to make you feel better.
I guess I'm a bit emotional today…
Take care…
bye bye

Shailaja V · June 5, 2015 at 5:10 pm

Chicky, I have a lump in my throat as I read your comment. I know that memories will not fill the void of a missing parent, no way. But there are times when the pain gets diminished, just a bit or a fraction, by recalling a happy thought. It must be very very hard to go through life without your mother by your side to help you, laud you, hug you. I completely understand the emotional bit. Much love and hugs to you, my dear. Many many hugs coming your way from me to you.

SHANAYA TALES · June 5, 2015 at 5:53 pm

I need to bookmark this to read out to my son someday. Beautiful and touching. Gy is so lucky to have you and I am sure she will make you proud when she ventures into her tomorrows. 🙂

Shilpa Gupte · June 5, 2015 at 6:10 pm

Love and hugs!

Parul · June 5, 2015 at 6:15 pm

Only a mother can write such a letter and when that mother is you, it's an icing on the cake. Glad you are our God Mum! 🙂
This post make me think of yesterday years, of the hard times or my Mum's love and my Dad's too..Parents are such a blessing! What a wonderful write up Shailaja and those pictures add to it! Thanks for sharing with us. Gy will love it and it will be for keeps, I am sure 🙂

Shailaja V · June 6, 2015 at 5:32 pm

Here's hoping, Shantala 🙂 Thank you for stopping by 🙂

Shailaja V · June 6, 2015 at 5:33 pm

I am glad that the post touched a chord with you, Parul. Thank you for reading 🙂

Daniel Nest · June 7, 2015 at 11:24 am

That was pretty damn beautiful. And timely for me personally, now that I'm looking forward to a journey with my son. Thanks for the touching read!

innatejames · June 7, 2015 at 4:04 pm

Your love is so tangible in this post, Shailaja. Gy is lucky to have you!

Shailaja Vishwanath · June 8, 2015 at 3:57 am

Thank you so much Daniel. I am glad it touched a chord with you 🙂

Shailaja Vishwanath · June 8, 2015 at 3:58 am

Not as luck as I am to have her, Nathan. Thank you very much for your kind words 🙂

elly stornebrink · June 8, 2015 at 6:42 am

Such a sweet endearing letter to your dear loved one, your daughter Gy. May she realize the depth of your love for her through these words and remember the wisdom within. 🙂 <3

Shailaja Vishwanath · June 11, 2015 at 4:10 pm

She just read this today and her eyes filled with tears and she couldn't understand why 🙂 I need this too, Elly. These are reminders I need every single day.

Balaka Basu · June 12, 2015 at 7:38 am

you made me cry….

Shailaja Vishwanath · June 13, 2015 at 6:38 am

Aww, sorry about that 🙂 Thanks for reading 🙂

Kalpana Solsi · June 15, 2015 at 5:38 pm

Shailaja, you are leaving a rich legacy for your daughter in form of letters and golden advice. Lucky Gy.

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