An Open and Honest Dialogue

An Open and Honest Dialogue

The key to effective communication is transparency of intent and clarity of thought. Add a dose of candour and you get an open and honest dialogue. 


Open and honest Dialogue, Diary of a Doting Mom, Parenting, Blogging, Shailaja V

Sample this one that I had just this morning. It was one that I had been putting off for  a while but I finally bit the bullet and decided that procrastination wasn’t really helping my cause. Summoning up my reserves of patience and kindness, tempered with compassion, I knocked on the door. When there was no response, I pushed the door open a crack to see her curled up on the bed, her back to me. The outline of her shoulders suggested that she was angry and rightly so. Taking a deep breath, I stepped into the room.

Me: Can we talk?

Her: NOW you want to talk? Why? What changed? 

Me: Nothing really, except that I feel we haven’t really spoken to each other for a while now.

Her (sitting up and turning around accusingly): A while?! Try a month. Actually, try a bit longer than that!

Me( holding up my hands): Agreed. It’s my fault entirely. But you need to know why.

Her (turning away): Oh, I know why! It’s because of HIM! He’s all you’ve got time for these days. Suddenly, I’m not important anymore and guess what, that’s fine by me! You go ahead and make the waves you want.

Me (gently): You have every right to be angry. I would too, in your position. But, hear me out? Please?

Her (relenting): Fine, say what you have to say.

Me: You’re both very important to me, you know that. It’s just that he’s rather young, a baby actually, while you’re almost nine. You’re stronger, more independent and more capable of holding your own. He needs me, just a while longer, to help him through some bumpy patches.

Her: But, you need me. You know you do. I’m your comforter! You’ve said it out loud!

Me: And that will never change. You’re always going to be the one I run to when I have all these wonderful things to share about being a parent, the life lessons I’ve learnt and the joy that comes from writing about it all. 

Her: So. . . does this mean that we’re done talking?

Me: Never. I will continue to talk but it may not be as often as I want to. Did you know I’m working on a memoir? It’s something close to my heart and hey, you helped give me the voice to say it! I’ll always be grateful for that. 

Her (sitting up with more interest): Okay then! What’s in store for us? 

Me: Well, for one thing, I know I promised we’d talk every week, but if that doesn’t happen, I don’t want you to feel bad. Hey, you should know that I get the most requests for campaigns for you, not for him! Isn’t that something?

Her (making a face): THAT’s what I’ve come to? Campaigns?

Me (soothingly): No, no, of course not. I just meant that you’re still sought after, the most loved and the main focus of everything I’ve ever wanted to blog about. I just need some time to really align what I want to do with my writing and blogging together with the whole ball of wax that’s parenting. Let’s face it: that’s a lot!

Her (smiling): You know something? I’m glad we had this talk. All this while I’ve been misjudging you. 

Me: So, we’re good then?

Her (embracing me): Of course! I am after all your first blog, right?

Me(hugging her back): The first and the closest to my heart. Always.

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  1. As I was reading the post, I found the chat similar to the one my younger brother used to have with my mother because she favoured me more. By the time I reached the ending lines, a smile formed on my face – oh it was 1 blog's complaint to the parent. I found the whole discussion very beautiful.

  2. There are days I still have such a discussion with my Mom, she totally favors my brother. I feel better talking about it. So happy you guys had this talk. I guess that is what being a parent is all about, whether it is to your kids or Blogs. 🙂

  3. All the while I was thinking that this was a talk you were having with Gy; the HE being your blog/book. 🙂
    But, good to know it was your blogs fighting for your attention! That is way better than your people vying for your attention, isn't it? I know how miserable it feels when one gets preference over other things in one's loved ones life.
    Great to see you back here!

  4. hahaha I was wondering where that was leading to :). I know this dialogue has been on your mind Shailaja, so glad that you got it out and that too in your lucid style. Here's to finding the perfect balance of blogs and books and parenting!

  5. Trust me the actual conversation with the first child is not so easy. I had a very tough phase initially when the second son was born. The first one was resentful, angry and depressed in turns because I did not have enough time for him. Sigh! Your post brought back those memories. The blogs I can easily handle and cajole. 🙂

  6. 🙂 You wait and see – with you as their Mum, they'll both become best friends and complementary to each other before they know it. I cuddle my 5 kids every day, regardless of whether I talk to them or not.

  7. Gy doesn't ever have to fight for my attention. She makes sure she is always part of my every waking moment 😉 Oh I would any day give people precedence over my blogs. Life is way more important. Always.

  8. Yes absolutely. I've got two blogs, primarily because the focus is very different, the audience is different and the reasons to blog are completely different. This has been and always will be, my diary. Things like numbers and stats don't trouble me one bit. I won't say the same for the other blog. It's the kid I expect a lot from, so to speak 😉

  9. Quite possibly so. In my case, I was a very accommodating child and welcomed the entry of the sibling. Mom always praises the way I handled it and moving to make room for another kid. I also know that if Gy had ever had a sibling, she would have made a marvelous elder sibling. But I've known kids who have struggled to come to terms with siblings too, so I completely get what you mean when you talk of resentment and anger. Blogs are way more forgiving 😉

  10. Shailaja this was a very creative way of f writing about two blogs. I mean you made it look at it in very different way. I don't know how to explain, but I found this very different that's all I can say. Cheers!!

  11. Glad to see you here,Seeya 🙂 I must say I am in awe of the way you've been blog-hopping your way across so many blogs in the last 10 days. Quite a feat and you're making many bloggers very happy too 🙂 Thanks for the compliment.

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