Zero, Zip, Nada, Nothing, it’s a blank slate!
As I sit here, typing away at my keyboard, a conversation I had with a friend earlier today, creeps back into my subconscious mind. It was about how she couldn’t come to terms with a loss and how every day, on that particular day, she would find herself crying out in pain and anguish at the thought of the loss. It was so deep and etched in her memory that the mere thought of the day would set her off. Staying around the house would trigger those floodgates easily, so she opted to leave town on that day.
She came to me and said, ‘Try as I might, I cannot let it go. I know it’s not healthy and I know it’s been over two years, but I can’t help it. What do I do?’
Looking at her pained face, all I could say was, ‘ Don’t resist it.’
I remember reading somewhere, ‘What you resist, persists’
In that short axiomatic statement is a world of knowledge and understanding.
Any idea, concept or belief derives its strength from the amount of faith that we choose to repose in it. If I love classical music and seek it out continuously, it will ideally enhance my love. The same holds true for that which we detest.
Assume that there is a particular person that you aren’t overly fond of. For some inexplicable reason, he/she annoys you, perhaps with the way she carries herself or the way he talks. You try your utmost to keep out of the person’s way. And yet, surprise, surprise! The individual is always around when you least expect it- feeding your frenzy of dislike. The more you try to stay away, the more it seems they are everywhere!
What this implies is very simple- resist something really hard and the universe will conspire to put you in touch with the same thing, over and over again. The more you push it away, the more it comes back to haunt and annoy you!
The same can be said of blogging. If I try my hardest to write something, even when I don’t feel inspired or in the mood, chances are I could dislike the whole exercise.
Instead, what I find works for me, is this: Don’t resist the feeling. Live through it. Expend it from your system gradually. It takes time- weeks, months, decades perhaps. But the slow expulsion of the feeling is far superior to resisting it on a daily basis.
You know what? I sleep better that way.
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