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Dear Gy, As you set foot into a new month, let’s begin with something that we’ve spoken about many times in the past. Attention. More specifically, the art of paying attention. It’s a valuable, beautiful and wonderful quality to have.

I’ve already seen it in some parts of your life and I urge you to cultivate it in other areas as well. This is important and I hope you’re paying attention (pun intended!).

This month is special to me in so many ways, Gy. You already know it’s my birthday month but did you know this was the month, 17 years ago, that your dad and I had our engagement ceremony? I still remember the colour of the saree I was wearingΒ  and the way your Appa looked at me from across a crowded room. There must have been over 200 people there, but he looked only at me.

As we stood on stage, greeting people after the event was over, he reached over to ask if I needed a glass of water. As I winced a bit, after standing for over an hour, he suggested that we sit down and rest.

Today, 17 years later, do you notice if he is attentive? You may not realise it, but he is, in inconspicuous ways. Have you observed how he doesn’t wake me up on days that I feel exhausted? Or the ways he explains something that he watches on TV? Or the way he concentrates when he is hard at work?

You have that quality too. When you pay attention to a task, your brow furrows and you stick your tongue out, much like he does. When you lose yourself in a book, you are wholly attentive to the act.

Please don’t lose this. It’s a gift you have and I hope you nurture it.

It is the gift that will help you be an empathetic person, sensitive to other people’s concerns. It will make you a good listener and a warm friend.

Stay attentive and stay blessed.

Lots of love,

Amma


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For the months of April and May, I will be writing short notes to my daughter on some aspects that I hold very dear. This was originally planned as part of the A to Z Challenge, but due to time constraints I have decided to write the posts over a two-month period.

I hope you enjoy these snippets as much as I love writing them.

If you are on WordPress, you can click ‘Follow’ and see my posts in your Reader. Posts will be updated two or three times a week in this time.

Thank you for being part of my journey.


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Natasha · April 1, 2018 at 10:29 pm

What a beautiful note to Gy. She is such a blessed child. Attention is a very valuable trait that more often than not we tend to put on the back burner. We tend to get distracted so easily by the innumerable things crowding our mind.
Our kids and we all really need to value attention, as its benefits are unparallel.
Thank you Shy for this beautiful reminder. Sharing with my girls too ❀️

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    Shailaja · April 6, 2018 at 8:01 am

    Thank you very much, Nats πŸ™‚ I really appreciate the kind words.

Ramya Abhinand · April 1, 2018 at 10:57 pm

Its attention to detail, attention to human emotions, and attention to all thats around us, thats actually going to get us through in many things in life. Sadly most often we fail on this aspect.

    Shailaja · April 6, 2018 at 7:59 am

    Sadly we do. But it’s in our hands, how much we do to break free of our addiction πŸ™‚

Shari · April 1, 2018 at 11:01 pm

Attention is a wonderful thing. I notice with my own children that when I give them my full attention that they are so much and attentive.

I also think that in a society that is electronically driven that attention is something that we need to be conscious of. Waiting rooms at doctor’s offices and other places have little signs that say, “promote connecting by having an electronic free waiting room.”

Nice post, thanks for sharing.

    Shailaja · April 6, 2018 at 7:59 am

    So well said. In this society it is imperative that we get them to pay attention to the things that matter. What a lovely sign that would be! ‘Promote connecting’. I admire it!

Obsessivemom · April 2, 2018 at 8:29 am

You know what stands out in this post? The warmth of family and the love you share. But that does not take away from the lesson, which is a very valuable one. This is such an important reminder in today’s times when one is surrounded by distractions.
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    Shailaja · April 6, 2018 at 7:58 am

    Aww I am so glad that came out! I was hoping for that. Thanks, Tulika πŸ™‚

Nabanita Dhar · April 2, 2018 at 9:27 am

Such a beautiful note, Shailaja. Yes, attention surely is a valuable asset. I need to work on it myself and then help M do it too. Thanks for the reminder πŸ™‚
And I hope that this month turns out to be everything that you wished it to be!

    Shailaja · April 6, 2018 at 7:57 am

    Thanks, Naba πŸ™‚ For the post love and the good wishes too πŸ™‚

Kala Ravi · April 2, 2018 at 4:58 pm

This is an aspect that I find lacking in most children and for that matter adults too. Paying attention to other people’s emotions, expressions, besides being attentive and wholly involved in what you do is so important yet so neglected. Little nuggets of wisdom in your notes to Gy!

    Shailaja · April 6, 2018 at 7:56 am

    Thanks, Kala πŸ™‚ She is loving the notes so far πŸ™‚

Akshata · April 2, 2018 at 4:59 pm

That’s a wonderful gift and quality which every individual with benefit from. Love the evocative writing style Shy
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    Shailaja · April 6, 2018 at 7:55 am

    Thanks a lot, Akshata πŸ™‚

Mansi · April 3, 2018 at 7:18 am

Attention , in a world full of distraction that is what I want for myself n my little soul too. So much said in so little words .

    Shailaja · April 6, 2018 at 7:55 am

    Thanks Mansi. Glad you enjoyed it πŸ™‚

Rajlakshmi · April 3, 2018 at 8:15 am

I always love the way you write about your family. So endearing … But it also makes me miss my parents. Love this letter to Gy. Attention to detail is important in life… Makes you more considerate and careful about both people and things.
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    Shailaja · April 6, 2018 at 7:54 am

    Thanks, Raj πŸ™‚ I agree attention is important and worth cultivating.

Rachna Parmar · April 3, 2018 at 12:10 pm

This is so sweet. Really! Being attentive to someone is the best gift you can give to another. Be there with them in the moment, tuned in. It is beautiful. It is wonderful that Gy has it. I find most kids and even adults have flitting attention spans.

    Shailaja · April 6, 2018 at 7:53 am

    Thanks Rachna πŸ™‚ I have been showing these notes to Gy as soon as they are published and she’s loving them so far.

Allison · April 3, 2018 at 10:31 pm

I love this! I think about attention a lot with my son, in regards to how he focuses on things (and WHAT he focuses on!) and how much attention I give him.

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