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A bolt out of the blue

It hit me where it hurt the most

My heart felt like lead

Weighted by the anguish and the tears

Her crumpled face was testament to the agony

That my Yelling had inflicted

Wrenched by guilt, I hugged her and resolved

No more. It’s time to make a change.

Word count: 55
This was the emotion I felt on the day before I undertook my ‘Yelling Less’ Challenge.

Written for the A to Z 2014 Challenge

A is for Awareness

My theme for the month is : Introspection in shades of 11

Check out my recommended blogger for the day: Bhavya and her post A for Address

Also linking this to the Ultimate Blog Challenge for April


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Shailaja V

Hi there! I'm Shailaja Vishwanath, a blogger with 12 years of blogging experience and a parent to a teen. I work as a digital marketing and social media consultant. From positive parenting tips to useful productivity hacks, social media advice to blogging advice, you'll find them all right here. Welcome to my blog.


Nabanita · March 31, 2014 at 8:49 pm

She's so adorable! And yes such a touching post…I remember how my sister used to make her face when mom scolded her…There was no way any of us could stay mad at her for long, still the same even today 🙂

Psych Babbler · April 1, 2014 at 12:51 am

Such a hard thing to watch for a parent and yet, so many parents do so much worse. I still don't know how. Yelling though at the end of the day, doesn't solve the problem. You yell, they learn to yell back and it just escalates the situation. Don't know why people don't get that. Great start Shailaja! 😀

Rajlakshmi · April 1, 2014 at 12:56 am

Awww she is a darling… Indeed it would hurt so much to see your loved one cry.

tulika singh · April 1, 2014 at 1:37 am

Aww this is so true. Remorse often follows right after a bout of yelling. Way to go Shailaja… your will power seems to be getting better everyday.

Swathi Shenoy · April 1, 2014 at 2:26 am

during my childhood I always thought crying is the best weapon to escape from the scoldings dat wud else keep continuing.. never did i thot dat it wud cause agony to my parents!!

mindbrewblog · April 1, 2014 at 3:20 am

Yes, there is remorse after yelling, but some kids do know how to manipulate their parents. You gotta watch out for that too! Great post, Shailaja as usual 🙂

Sreeja Praveen · April 1, 2014 at 3:30 am

Superb,Shailaja 🙂 the pic is so cute, and yes, even when we yell at them, it hurts us the most ! I'm just reminded of how I should continue to control the fiery temper with little P 🙂 All for those priceless moments with her 🙂 Hugs 🙂

Kajal · April 1, 2014 at 4:12 am

That's great…yeah a lesson well learnt. I guess I need to learn too 😛

Sirisha · April 1, 2014 at 4:47 am

Nice post..and she is so cute ..

Srilakshmi Indrasenan · April 1, 2014 at 4:58 am

I wish I could kiss her. The post is so touching and intriguing. I am so interested to know what's next in the introspection. I already tried thinking in all permutations and combinations 😛

Inderpreet Kaur Uppal · April 1, 2014 at 5:08 am

Yelling is something I struggle with a lot. Hope I too can curb my habit. Great post.

Shilpa Garg · April 1, 2014 at 5:26 am

Oh yes! We always regret yelling at our kids! It is tough to not yell and explain them with reason and love, but certainly not impossible.

juzta mom · April 1, 2014 at 5:38 am

Awww I can relate so much to your words. Great start 🙂

Beloo Mehra · April 1, 2014 at 6:17 am

Touched by this beautiful description of what you felt. Your adorable daughter is one lucky girl to have such a doting and introspective mom! A great start!

Aparna · April 1, 2014 at 7:24 am

Lovely start to the challenge Shailaja :).. Love the pic as well!

Ananya Tales · April 1, 2014 at 8:41 am

Beautiful pic, its hard not to yell..even harder to admit you yelled.

Scattered Mama · April 1, 2014 at 9:07 am

I deeply admire so much thought going into parenting! If each one of us could be so sensitive, it would bring about such a difference in society at large!

pinksocks · April 1, 2014 at 9:17 am

I wish the lesson you pick up along the way shape the beautiful child's life 🙂 you are doing just fine mommy.

Red Handed · April 1, 2014 at 10:37 am

Aww man,,look at that face.How can anyone yell at that face.

sulekkha · April 1, 2014 at 10:51 am

So happy to read about your yelling-less challenge 🙂 The innocent and adorable angels inspire us to better ourselves, lovely post.

Elsie Amata · April 1, 2014 at 12:21 pm

This was just awesome! I love your yelling less challenge. A few years ago I realized just how much I yelled and how counter productive it truly is.

Happy A-Zing – pretty exciting huh?

AJ's wHooligan in the A-Z Challenge

Sushree Dash · April 1, 2014 at 12:29 pm

Every word mattered and expressed itself really well 🙂

Tom MacInnes · April 1, 2014 at 1:39 pm

55 beautiful, loving words. The emotional wounds of anger are so hard to heal. I wish more parents would stop, as you have said, and realized the damage they are infoicting with their harsh words. Every parent should read this post! Great Day #1 post. 🙂

ovengoodies · April 1, 2014 at 2:05 pm

Aww. Little Miss G has always been so adorable. I can totally see where your yelling less' articles came from. I'm now more conscious of how I sound and switch to reasoning it out, after having read that article. Thanks, Shailaja for that 101 on parenting. 🙂

taleoftwotomatoes · April 1, 2014 at 2:17 pm

Aww.. so cute… Beautiful write, there! Looking forward for more. 🙂

sitara nair · April 1, 2014 at 2:38 pm

Oh little wanna hug you….
Loved it Shailaja..touched my heart..

Richa Singh · April 1, 2014 at 2:45 pm

It is the picture combined with the words that etched the scene so vividly. I feel words inflict many things on our loved ones..


Found In Folsom · April 1, 2014 at 2:48 pm

So cute..we all do it as moms…we cannot help it…with so less time and so many things going on…we need to make justice to everything…their cute faces really makes us move

Fanny Barnes Thornton · April 1, 2014 at 3:38 pm

Words of feeling. Awareness is important. Sometimes I think some people have no senses at all, otherwise they'd be aware!
All the best with the A-Z.

Corinne Rodrigues · April 1, 2014 at 4:33 pm

Her face does say it all! Sometimes the pressure of daily life gets to parents – and yelling seems normal. Awareness – that's a key word about a lot of things! 🙂

Vidya Sury · April 1, 2014 at 5:12 pm

I cannot bear seeing a child's sad face. Even the most serene person is not immune to losing it sometimes. Glad you resolved to make a change!


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Prem Rao · April 1, 2014 at 5:24 pm

I love your blend of pictures and words. The visuals truly bring more life to mere words.

Mina Menon · April 1, 2014 at 5:38 pm

Well lessons in life start at home rt 🙂

Kathy Combs · April 1, 2014 at 6:06 pm

This post touched me. I hate having to correct my kids, but correct I do. If they push me past the brink and I lose my temper, I always feel bad. I always follow it up with hugs and kisses. ♥

Jyotsna Bhatia · April 1, 2014 at 7:42 pm

Aww.. A wise decision 🙂

Erica Gore · April 2, 2014 at 12:58 am

Lovely…I too remember my heart breaking at times like this. Thank you.

Sanjivani Iyer · April 2, 2014 at 6:21 am

It's brilliant Shailaja.

Shesha Chaturvedi · April 3, 2014 at 3:24 pm

I think every mother goes through these emotions. Things get on mother's nerves (handling multiple things)> she yells or scolds her kid> Kid cries> mother feels guilty!!! She is cute, I am just trying to imagine her smiling face 🙂

Shailaja V · April 3, 2014 at 6:01 pm

Kids really learn fast, eh? 🙂

Shailaja V · April 3, 2014 at 6:02 pm

Yes PB, absolutely

Shailaja V · April 3, 2014 at 6:02 pm

Indeed it did. I didn't know how much it hurts!

Shailaja V · April 3, 2014 at 6:03 pm

Thanks Tulika 🙂

Shailaja V · April 3, 2014 at 6:04 pm

Kind of an eye opener right?

Shailaja V · April 3, 2014 at 6:05 pm

True, but Gy has been the innocent one all along. Hope that persists.

Shailaja V · April 3, 2014 at 6:06 pm

Yes, Sreeja. Hope I never lapse back into yelling.

Shailaja V · April 3, 2014 at 6:06 pm

Always a time to start, Kajal 🙂

Shailaja V · April 3, 2014 at 6:07 pm

Thank you Sirisha

Shailaja V · April 3, 2014 at 6:08 pm

Did you guess it right? 🙂

Shailaja V · April 3, 2014 at 6:09 pm

Inderpreet, try the orange rhino challenge. It works!

Shailaja V · April 6, 2014 at 1:47 pm

I think so too, Shilpa. I learnt this lesson very late in life, but I hope to follow through with it, now that I have understood its impact.

Shailaja V · April 6, 2014 at 1:47 pm

Thank you so much 🙂

Shailaja V · April 6, 2014 at 1:51 pm

So touched by your words, Beloo 🙂 Thank you. I am incredibly lucky to have her in my life.

Shailaja V · April 6, 2014 at 1:58 pm

Thank you Aparna 🙂

Shailaja V · April 6, 2014 at 2:00 pm

Exactly Ananya 🙂 Thanks for catching that 🙂

Shailaja V · April 6, 2014 at 2:00 pm

Most of the time, we don't make the effort. And I find that unless it comes from within, this need to change, it doesn't really stick!

Shailaja V · April 6, 2014 at 2:01 pm

I certainly hope so too 🙂

Shailaja V · April 6, 2014 at 2:02 pm

When you are stressed, sleep-deprived, just want some quiet, believe me, anything can make you yell. But yes, seeing this picture, I wonder, how could I yell at her!!?

Shailaja V · April 6, 2014 at 2:02 pm

Thank you Sulekha 🙂

Shailaja V · April 6, 2014 at 2:07 pm

Glad you agree, Elsie! And it is incredibly wonderful, this A-z-ing!

Shailaja V · April 6, 2014 at 2:17 pm

Thank you Sushree 🙂

Shailaja V · April 6, 2014 at 2:20 pm

Yes, it would be so easy to just step back and realise the magnitude of our words. Thank you Tom 🙂

Shailaja V · April 6, 2014 at 2:34 pm

Always welcome, Monica 🙂

Shailaja V · April 6, 2014 at 2:36 pm

Thank you very much 🙂

Shailaja V · April 6, 2014 at 2:36 pm

Thanks Sitara 😀

Shailaja V · April 6, 2014 at 2:38 pm

Indeed they do, Richa. Thanks for being here 🙂

Shailaja V · April 6, 2014 at 2:39 pm

The regret of shouting makes us reflect, right?

Shailaja V · April 6, 2014 at 2:41 pm

Thank you Fanny!

Shailaja V · April 6, 2014 at 2:46 pm

Indeed it is, Corinne. I agree on the 'seems normal' part. That statement by my husband triggered the whole yelling less challenge.

Shailaja V · April 6, 2014 at 2:50 pm

Very glad indeed, Vidya. Thank you 🙂

Shailaja V · April 6, 2014 at 2:51 pm

Coming from you, that is a HUGE compliment, Prem!

Amrit Rukhaiyaar · April 15, 2014 at 1:42 pm

aww she is so cute… that's a brilliant challenge “Yellling Less”


Shailaja V · April 21, 2014 at 4:12 pm

More often than we care to acknowledge 🙂 Thanks Mina 🙂

Shailaja V · April 21, 2014 at 4:12 pm

Oh I have to correct her 🙂 Who else would do it with love? I just decided that yelling was not helping though and she learnt it too.

Shailaja V · April 21, 2014 at 4:13 pm

Yes, I think so too. Thanks Jyotsna.

Shailaja V · April 21, 2014 at 4:13 pm

The pain of watching them cry is horrible, right, Erica? Thanks for stopping by.

Shailaja V · April 21, 2014 at 4:14 pm

Thank you very much, Sanjivani!

Shailaja V · April 21, 2014 at 4:15 pm

Thank you Amrit!

Shailaja V · April 21, 2014 at 4:15 pm

Oh you will find many smiling shots of her on the blog. Just scroll through my earlier posts 🙂

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