Believe in the pain- #atozchallenge

Believe in the pain- #atozchallenge

A while ago, a very hurtful thing happened. Somebody I was very close to, said something unexpected. It was said in jest, but there was an element of truth to it.


I am not blaming the person. But it did happen.

So, what was the outcome? 

Did I withdraw into myself and feel hurt? Yes, I did.

Did I nurse a bit of resentment towards the person? Yes, I did.

Did I stop interacting with the person? No, I did not.

Because I believe that in our pain is our learning. From that hurt came an understanding, that all relationships are delicate and we need to tread carefully. We are what we make of ourselves. 

We can pick ourselves up and make things better. Or we can retreat into self- deprecation and the ‘victim’ complex, which, only hurts one person: the self.


Believe that there is a reason for your existence. 

Believe that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Let go of the hurt and embrace the lesson. Open up to love today.



Word count: 176

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Written for the A to Z 2014 Challenge

B is for Belief

My theme for the month is : Introspection in shades of 11

My recommended blogger for the day is Aditi Kausiva 
and her gripping tale ‘No more Black


Also linking this to the Ultimate Blog Challenge for April

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  1. You know when I'm hurt I find it very hard to forgive…Honestly I never… I think I need to really grow up or I'll be a resentful old hag one day..Liked the tone of the post!

  2. It's great when we can parse out whether the person said something that would help us improve! Glad you are objective about it and did not shut the person out of your life!

  3. Loved the conversational style here ; it is more like talking to others, all the while talking to oneself, which is of course the essence of introspection!
    I used to find it very hard to forgive, too. And I used to get hurt very easily. But thankfully, over the years, some things happened which made me realise that any body can hurt me, unless I learn to stop getting hurt 🙂 So now, the case is different. But yes, I believe in the pain too. It is a sharp teacher 🙂

  4. Yes, pain can be a great way to move forward if we can allow the light to shine through the tiny crack that eventually does appear amidst all that hurt and resentment. A very good post.

  5. I'd probably not be as grown up about being hurt as you were. I'd like o withdraw at least for a while before I can go back and talk to the person. In any case it's easier to forget than forgive.

  6. You know what – I still believe it's alright for us to process the pain and forgive, but cut people out of our lives too when we know they're not good for us. I don't believe in playing pretend with some people.

  7. You said it right. Pain is indeed a great teacher. But some people on the pretext of being honest sometimes say the most downright insulting things to you. I mean, there has to be a better way of putting the truth forward, isn't it?

  8. It is a difficult thing to do but the peace you feel later is worth it. I feel bad when friends hurt me, unintentionally or otherwise…following your advice now. Lovely post…

  9. The fact that you accepted the bitter truth and that gave it in the face.
    Kahaan tak yeh mann ke andhere chalenge, udaasi bhare din kabhi toh talenge 🙂
    Keep going.

  10. Sometimes I held onto the anger, especially from the childhood hurts where I felt people took advantage because I was young. But you're right… the only person who gets hurt from that is the self.

  11. When I am hurt I tend to withdraw completely. I block people out of my life and go on without them in it. Sadly I have always been this way. It is a hard habit to change in myself. Although I forgive, I generally can't seem to forget. ♥ Somehow I always look at it as a sign that the time has come to move on.

  12. It all depends, shailaja..you could grow out of it, you could go down out of it…the people, the situation and everything matters. you wrote in 176 words but there is a lot to discuss on this 🙂

  13. its very hard to translate pain into learning.. just like controlling the anger and many other characteristics, we need to have that habit.. I havent.. I still brood, and hope time will teach me those qualities…

  14. “The stupid neither forgive nor forget;
    the naive forgive and forget;
    the wise forgive but do not forget.”
    ― Thomas Szasz
    I would add: if the person repeats it often, then remove her/him from your life.

  15. I agree, resentment and anger hurts only us! The other person may not even be aware of your inner turmoil. Recently when I learnt to Let Go of the pain that somebody gave me, I was so much at peace. I wish I had done that much earlier!

  16. Relationships are indeed delicate. A wrong word, a wrong gesture can snap the thread that holds people together. It may take years to build a relationship. Yet, it may just take seconds to break it up.

    Lovely post Shailaja.

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