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“You make the best pancakes.”

“I admire how you handled that difficult situation. “

“She gives the best hugs in the whole world.”
How happy do you feel when you get a compliment?

Does it warm your soul to hear something heartfelt?

I’m guessing you feel wonderful. It’s human nature.

Looking back, one of the best compliments I’ve ever got from people is, “You inspire me.” I don’t claim to be a model. . . anything, actually. Life is long and you learn some good, hard lessons on the way. But, to know that you’ve touched people, even in some small way, is very gratifying.

As a senior in college:

I remember prowling the hallways of our hostel ,back in college, since it was my duty to ensure that study hours were maintained. Invariably, the girls would catch one glimpse of me from afar and dart into their rooms. I’d always picture them viewing me as a monster, out to wreck their peace.

When the time for goodbyes came around and we were getting our autograph books out, almost everyone used the word ‘inspiration’ while referring to me. To say that I was overwhelmed would be an understatement. They said they admired my resolve and how they respected me ,even when I was out on those rounds.

As a teacher:

My first job was as a trainer. I was fairly confident of taking it on, as it was something I’d always wanted to do. The challenges were many.  For one,  this wasn’t a twenty-minute paper on Robert Burns. This wasn’t among my friends and peers. I wasn’t being gently nudged by a teacher in the background, when I stumbled.

This was two hours of talking, knowledgeably on a subject.  This was igniting young minds, who sat before me. And the only one nudging me was my inner voice.

But, I made it through. I went on to take many classes. I met some delightful students, many of whom still keep in touch.

One evening,  as I leaned on the wall outside the classroom, waiting for my students to trickle in, a shy student of mine came up and said,  “Ma’am, I’ve met teachers who instruct and teachers who encourage. You’re the first one I’ve met,  who chooses to inspire us. ” I don’t recall anything else that evening, since I had a lump in my throat.

As a blogger:

Blogging brought meaning into my stay-at-home existence,  after Gy came along and lovingly took up all my attention.

I chose to blog, since it ensured that my love for writing and language would stay alive.

Today, seven years later,  when I read comments that mention how my posts inspire them or help them in some way, I’m motivated to continue the journey.

If what I write can also inspire people to continue to grow their network of love, I feel blessed.

Gy, too has had her fair share of compliments and I’m still a bit unsure about how ‘too much praise’ can be damaging. In fact, she probably gets more criticism from me than she deserves.

The day she graduated from preschool, every kid in class was given a sash, with the child’s most prominent quality printed on it. How she grinned and posed with happiness, displaying her ‘friendly’ tag, is an image I’ll never forget.

We respond to the good, the beautiful and the positive.
It’s why we love a sunrise.

It’s why our children beam when we praise their efforts.

It’s why we smile  if our partner admires our skills( like writing a blog, for instance;).

So, don’t wait. Get out there and make someone feel better about themselves. And, the bonus is that you get to feel great, since you’ve spread your share of sweetness and joy. 

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This post is inspired by Write Tribe 
and their celebration of National Compliment Day

Linking up with ABC Wednesday for the letter C, which here, stands for compliment

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This post has been written as  part of the WIN ’14 Activity at BlogAdda!

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Categories: Life LessonsParenting

Nabanita · January 27, 2014 at 9:38 am

That was such a wonderful post! Keep writing .. You are a wonderful writer 🙂

thewordtrance · January 27, 2014 at 1:10 pm

As I read through the entries, I notice a pattern. We seem to remember words from years ago. Simply shows the power of a good, kind word and the extend of its affect !

Priya Mani · January 28, 2014 at 8:02 am

What I really love about this post is the way you've analyzed the topic and imbued it with your unique personal touch with that final dash of inspiration. And all without making it an exercise in self-dabba, to which it could have easily gravitated!

Now, that's truly commendable.

Shilpa Garg · January 28, 2014 at 9:58 am

Oh yes, compliments can brighter our days!! And the best is they don't cost a thing for the giver but can accomplish so much for the receiver! 🙂

Ruby Manchanda · January 28, 2014 at 5:03 pm

I loved the flow of sentiments

Indrani · January 28, 2014 at 5:16 pm

That was a good read. 🙂
Happy ABCW!

Priya · January 28, 2014 at 5:18 pm

True! Loved the way you've written 🙂 And that pic of your daughter is priceless.. fab smile.. 🙂

Richard Lawry · January 28, 2014 at 5:34 pm

Their is too much criticism and too little encouragement and compliments in the world.
An Arkie's Musings

photowannabe · January 28, 2014 at 7:00 pm

Wonderful inspired post.
There is nothing like a true, heartfelt compliment to make one's day.

Roger Owen Green · January 28, 2014 at 7:34 pm

A good strategy!

Hildred · January 28, 2014 at 8:55 pm

Compliments are always heart warming….

Leslie: · January 28, 2014 at 9:30 pm

Compliments make all things worthwhile.

leslie
abcw team

Carver · January 28, 2014 at 10:43 pm

Compliments can be so important for self esteem. Carver, ABC Wed. Team

Shailaja V · January 29, 2014 at 8:26 am

Thank you for the compliment, Nabanita 🙂

Arvind Passey · January 29, 2014 at 10:09 am

Loved the giving of a sash to a pre-schooler… so innovative.

Arvind Passey
http://www.passey.info

vishalbheeroo · January 29, 2014 at 10:25 am

The words you received from class mate, teachers and fellow bloggers is the best feeling and I am sure you are treasuring them. For me compliments are such a high and who needs Vodka or Redbull ya:)
http://vishalbheeroo.wordpress.com/2014/01/28/100-words-on-saturday-20144

Shailaja V · January 29, 2014 at 5:26 pm

The same is true of unkind words as well, which is why we need to think long and hard, before saying something.

Shailaja V · January 29, 2014 at 5:27 pm

Thank you Priya! I was a bit worried as to how it would come across. Glad it was positive in impact.

Shailaja V · January 29, 2014 at 5:28 pm

The best things in life are free 🙂 Thanks for reading.

Shailaja V · January 29, 2014 at 5:29 pm

Thank you!

SamuraiFrog · January 29, 2014 at 11:53 pm

That was very good to read. I've been thinking a lot lately about how I tend to reject compliments (because of my anxiety and damaged self-esteem), and how that must make the complimenter feel. I don't like having my compliments rejected, but I understand some people just don't feel they deserve them. So I'm learning to say “Thank you” and accept them, which acclimates me to being complimented. The less you reject, the more comfortable you become.

Good for you for accepting them; I'm finding that alone can change so much.

Kalpana Solsi · January 30, 2014 at 2:58 pm

Compliments are like bright rays of sunshine bringing happiness and smiles.
Dropping in from ABC Wednesday.

www.icescreammama.com · February 1, 2014 at 1:51 pm

so true and it's so easy to make someone happy. hopping over from the YW grid.

Usha Menon · February 1, 2014 at 1:52 pm

Shailaja, I am happy that I landed on your post. I am extremely impressed by the way you have written about compliments from your students, fellow bloggers.

Shailaja V · February 1, 2014 at 2:49 pm

We really don't understand how far a kind word goes 🙂 Thanks Icescream mamma 🙂

Shailaja V · February 1, 2014 at 2:49 pm

Glad to see you here, Usha 🙂

Aisha Abdelhamid · February 1, 2014 at 4:48 pm

Wonderful memories and a lovely post – thanks for sharing! I still remember my inspiring teachers, too!

Natalie DeYoung · February 2, 2014 at 12:05 am

What a good thing to focus on. 🙂 Lovely reflection.

SouthMainMuse · February 2, 2014 at 6:36 pm

Love that photo of your daughter. How wonderful. Funny that I was just having a conversation about this with my daughter. She was saying how she couldn't think of anything to say when someone complimented her. I told her all you need to say is “thank you.” It took me a long time to learn that.

tulika singh · February 4, 2014 at 1:57 am

'You inspire me' is such a great compliment because it means you are giving something to others. And that otters are acknowledging it.. What a beautiful feeling. Love Gy's picture. The happy smile is just priceless.

arpita mudit · March 29, 2014 at 11:33 pm

Who doesn't love compliments. But the one you get for your child, from your child.. the feeling is awesome!! 🙂 Very nice post.

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