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In response to the prompt for today, Tell us about a blog post that you didn’t publish, I went hunting through the drafts on my dashboard.

I started writing it a couple of months ago. I titled it ‘Yes vs No’. It was supposed to be about how both are equally important in a parent-child interaction.

Somehow, it never progressed beyond the first three sentences. And, that was troubling me at first.
Why was I having writer’s block for something that happened everyday? Did I not have enough data to write about it? Not likely, since we hear both words aplenty, thrown about every hour!

Then, it came to me one afternoon, as I sat sipping my steaming cup of  tea and watching the sun set in a pinkish- orange hue on the horizon.

I wasn’t ready to write about it. I hadn’t completely come to terms with the idea yet. In my day, there were still too many ‘No’s as opposed to the number of ‘Yes’ words I would have liked. This isn’t because I am a negative person- far from it. The positive always calls to me; looking on the bright side is now part of my psyche.

But, as a parent, to let go and to let a child be free, without inhibition, without rules and without restraint, isn’t something that comes very instinctively to me. Just as she learns to stumble, walk and run, I have to gradually relax my hold, release and watch her stride alone.

It’s not easy. It won’t happen overnight. But it will happen- at its pace and at the right moment.

Oh and that post? It’s still there, lying in my ‘drafts’ folder. I will get around to finishing it one day. Just not today.

It’s Day 18

This post is my contribution to

   NaBloPoMo November 2013



Thien-Kim aka Kim · November 18, 2013 at 7:29 pm

I have several drafts as well that have been sitting there. Sometimes our thought processes about things just aren't ripe enough for a full blog post. Maybe one day!

Robbie K · November 18, 2013 at 7:31 pm

#NaBloPoMo has actually motivated/forced me to go thru my drafts folder. AT one time I had 90 unfinished drafts! I've deleted some, published a few and worked on a few more. Proud to say I am down to 78 in my draft folder.

Stephanie @ Life, Unexpectedly · November 18, 2013 at 10:08 pm

I totally understand your dilemma. I tend to be a little strict with the girls, but I do change my mind often enough.. Maybe that's not the sending the best message all the time, but honestly, my first (adult) response to a walk in the summer rain was “hell no!”. A second later, it was more a “why not??” 😉

Shailaja V · November 19, 2013 at 3:54 am

Exactly! It just doesn't feel right to put something down in a half-hearted fashion. Thanks for stopping by 🙂

Shailaja V · November 19, 2013 at 3:55 am

Wow! 90 drafts! You're a superwoman! I know I can write more, but time doesn't work in my favour..sigh…

Shailaja V · November 19, 2013 at 3:57 am

Ha.. you think you're strict 😉

And,honestly, I think we are doing okay most of the time. It's the striking of the balance that I need to improve upon. Thanks for stopping by 🙂

Obsessivemom · November 19, 2013 at 9:11 am

Oh yes. It takes a while to say an instinctive Yes specially when the kids are small. The thing is we are also learning the ropes of motherhood then. I remember I didn't let the twins enter the sand pit for so long. The concept of playing with 'mud' was so not me. But then I gave in and they had so much fun for years. Saying yes takes practise and like Stephanie (above) said you need to ask 'why not?'

Chiya · November 19, 2013 at 10:13 am

A Good Simple post 🙂

Shailaja V · November 20, 2013 at 4:29 am

I definitely recall the sand pit phase. Every evening, I had to pull out handfuls of sand that used to enter every single follicle!! And wet mud? Don't even get me started 😉 Once I let it happen, it was easier on both of us.

The thing is, the restrictions also evolve along with the age. Now, at 7 years, it's saying 'No' to backtalk. Sigh.. we live and learn…

Shailaja V · November 20, 2013 at 4:29 am

Thank you for the comment 🙂

Aparna · November 21, 2013 at 4:29 pm

It's always those profound ones that lie in the drafts for longer ;).. Good luck with finishing it!

Shailaja V · November 21, 2013 at 6:06 pm

Don't they? And I can't do a half-hearted job of it. Wouldn't feel right.

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