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In response to the prompt for today, Tell us about a blog post that you didn’t publish, I went hunting through the drafts on my dashboard.

I started writing it a couple of months ago. I titled it ‘Yes vs No’. It was supposed to be about how both are equally important in a parent-child interaction.

Somehow, it never progressed beyond the first three sentences. And, that was troubling me at first.
Why was I having writer’s block for something that happened everyday? Did I not have enough data to write about it? Not likely, since we hear both words aplenty, thrown about every hour!

Then, it came to me one afternoon, as I sat sipping my steaming cup of  tea and watching the sun set in a pinkish- orange hue on the horizon.

I wasn’t ready to write about it. I hadn’t completely come to terms with the idea yet. In my day, there were still too many ‘No’s as opposed to the number of ‘Yes’ words I would have liked. This isn’t because I am a negative person- far from it. The positive always calls to me; looking on the bright side is now part of my psyche.

But, as a parent, to let go and to let a child be free, without inhibition, without rules and without restraint, isn’t something that comes very instinctively to me. Just as she learns to stumble, walk and run, I have to gradually relax my hold, release and watch her stride alone.

It’s not easy. It won’t happen overnight. But it will happen- at its pace and at the right moment.

Oh and that post? It’s still there, lying in my ‘drafts’ folder. I will get around to finishing it one day. Just not today.

It’s Day 18

This post is my contribution to

   NaBloPoMo November 2013

Shailaja V

Hi there! I'm Shailaja Vishwanath, a blogger with 12 years of blogging experience and a parent to a teen. I work as a digital marketing and social media consultant. From positive parenting tips to useful productivity hacks, social media advice to blogging advice, you'll find them all right here. Welcome to my blog.


Thien-Kim aka Kim · November 18, 2013 at 7:29 pm

I have several drafts as well that have been sitting there. Sometimes our thought processes about things just aren't ripe enough for a full blog post. Maybe one day!

Robbie K · November 18, 2013 at 7:31 pm

#NaBloPoMo has actually motivated/forced me to go thru my drafts folder. AT one time I had 90 unfinished drafts! I've deleted some, published a few and worked on a few more. Proud to say I am down to 78 in my draft folder.

Stephanie @ Life, Unexpectedly · November 18, 2013 at 10:08 pm

I totally understand your dilemma. I tend to be a little strict with the girls, but I do change my mind often enough.. Maybe that's not the sending the best message all the time, but honestly, my first (adult) response to a walk in the summer rain was “hell no!”. A second later, it was more a “why not??” 😉

Shailaja V · November 19, 2013 at 3:54 am

Exactly! It just doesn't feel right to put something down in a half-hearted fashion. Thanks for stopping by 🙂

Shailaja V · November 19, 2013 at 3:55 am

Wow! 90 drafts! You're a superwoman! I know I can write more, but time doesn't work in my favour..sigh…

Shailaja V · November 19, 2013 at 3:57 am

Ha.. you think you're strict 😉

And,honestly, I think we are doing okay most of the time. It's the striking of the balance that I need to improve upon. Thanks for stopping by 🙂

Obsessivemom · November 19, 2013 at 9:11 am

Oh yes. It takes a while to say an instinctive Yes specially when the kids are small. The thing is we are also learning the ropes of motherhood then. I remember I didn't let the twins enter the sand pit for so long. The concept of playing with 'mud' was so not me. But then I gave in and they had so much fun for years. Saying yes takes practise and like Stephanie (above) said you need to ask 'why not?'

Chiya · November 19, 2013 at 10:13 am

A Good Simple post 🙂

Shailaja V · November 20, 2013 at 4:29 am

I definitely recall the sand pit phase. Every evening, I had to pull out handfuls of sand that used to enter every single follicle!! And wet mud? Don't even get me started 😉 Once I let it happen, it was easier on both of us.

The thing is, the restrictions also evolve along with the age. Now, at 7 years, it's saying 'No' to backtalk. Sigh.. we live and learn…

Shailaja V · November 20, 2013 at 4:29 am

Thank you for the comment 🙂

Aparna · November 21, 2013 at 4:29 pm

It's always those profound ones that lie in the drafts for longer ;).. Good luck with finishing it!

Shailaja V · November 21, 2013 at 6:06 pm

Don't they? And I can't do a half-hearted job of it. Wouldn't feel right.

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