There’s always a Reason

There’s always a Reason

I took a very long time to write this post. Not the actual writing, but the drafting of it and there’s a reason for that.
Most of my posts in the A-Z challenge flowed very easily. This one, on the other hand, made me pause and ponder. It made me draft the words many times over, edit the ideas in my head and it finally sees the published world today.

Because, I believe that whatever happens in my life, there is a reason for it. It’s a principle I live by; a truth that I write by. 

There can be  happy reasons such as these:
Or for the less obvious, but equally important ones here:
  • There is a reason my family was thrown out of a train between Singapore and Bangkok, back in the early ’80s.





And there’s even a reason I have done some FUN things:
  • Or doing these six things which many other parents have done too!
Yes, there are reasons for every, single thing that has touched me in my life. Some of it’s very precious to me, some of it was very painful to endure and others make me smile with the memory of their occurrence. 
What I take away from all my experiences, is one thing: don’t judge them in isolation. They have a hand in the entire fabric of life. Though I can’t always see it right here, right now, there is a very good reason that these instances manifested when they did.
The more I learn to accept that, the easier it is to come to terms with the inevitable.


Word count: 363

Written for the A to Z 2014 Challenge
R is for Reason

My theme for the month is : Introspection in shades of 11

Also linking this to the Ultimate Blog Challenge for April


Linking this post to YeahWrite Weekend Moonshine Grid #162


*Featured image courtesy: Shutterstock

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0 thoughts on “There’s always a Reason

  1. Wow beautifully drafted I must say! Yes don't judge things in isolation, there is always a reason and every thing is interrelated, if only we know how to stop and read the signs.

    PS: I just visited two of the links right now and can relate to both of them. Will come back and check all soon.

  2. 🙂 Yes, there's a reason why things happen and absorbing the learning in good spirit is the best thing to do. I enjoyed those links cited as reasons!

    Amazing to think we're on Day 18 eh? 🙂

  3. I liked this and found the reason why I read your piece.Everything has a cause and effect.Nothing is done without purpose.Even staring at the setting sun at the beach is to kill idleness.

  4. Every thing that happens, has a reason , that's what even the Gita tells us 🙂 This post is divine just because of the message it conveys ! There's a reason behind your having to redraft it over and again !! 🙂 Just that we're at times incapable of going beyond the obvious and checking out the cosmic plans behind every moment 🙂
    More often than not, in retrospect, we' re thankful that certain things happened when they did 🙂

    A beautiful post, this one !!

  5. yes every thing one does defntly has a reason linked to it, though we always say there is no big reason behind it. U hav given links to too many tales. Wud love to read them post A to Z.
    Good luck with the challenge. I like that in simple words u introduced many episodes to us 🙂
    Hav a good day Shailaja-

  6. Quite a reasonable post, I would say 😉 Jokes apart, I too agree that there is a reason for almost everything that happens..but we can't always know or perceive that reason. Because if we were able to figure out everything, where would be the mystery of this beautiful thing called life? 🙂 A good post. Saw that picture of yours with snake – will visit other links later when I have a better net connectivity at home. Aah…the perks of living in rural India 🙂

  7. Lovely lovely post Shailaja. I too believe everything happens for a reason and I just don't say it…I have seen how things have evolved around me and when one is disappointed by an immediate instance it is only later we find out or understand why it happened the way it did! Hugs!!

  8. God has given me the ability to understand and correlate instances of good and bad i receive to good and bad i cause…i can clearly realise it from childhood.

  9. Everybody likes to say,”Everything happens for a reason” because it sounds very profound. No offence meant, but I have something else to say?

    What 'reason' will we offer to a girl who is raped?
    What 'reason' will we offer to an infant who loses both parents in an accident?
    What 'reason' will we offer to a physically or mentally challenged child or to her/his parents?

    Some things happen for no 'reason'. We just have to deal with them in the best way possible.

  10. I beg to differ slightly and hope you don't mind. Read your train incident between Singapore and Bangkok.Understand your point but in case of the South Korean ferry accident – what can be the reason relevant to those families or the parents of those school children ?

    Your last line – “The more I learn to accept that, the easier it is to come to terms” summarizes the best way to find out peace with your current state or being instead of fighting external or internal, physical or mental battles that might ruin your peace… This is true for those South Korean families now.

  11. Actually, Pro, even those incidents have a reason. We may not understand them and definitely cannot explain them, to the victims. Although I haven't undergone anything as painful as what you have described above, I have gone through a severe, traumatic phase in my life- mental illness. It is deeply personal and I have not blogged about it yet, but it took me a whole 3 years before I realised why I had to go through it. While it may sound profound, I truly believe in what I say- that everything happens for a reason.

    The thing is we don't necessarily have to attribute a reason to things that happen. We just need to deal with them, as you have mentioned. What we learn from each incident, shapes our character.

  12. I believe there's a reason behind everything and it's sometimes for our own good… and no, I am not generalizing it 🙂 That python pic is scary… I don't think I could ever muster enough courage to do that 😛 the train bandit escape sounds miraculous.

  13. Oh yes, everything happens for a reason! Like they say, eventually all things fall into place. Until then, laugh at the confusion, live for the moments, and know everything happens for a reason!! 🙂

  14. And yet you visit every day! I promise to read all your posts at leisure, Beloo. I want to do complete justice to them. Rushing through them will not be right. I have lots to share in terms of ideas too 🙂

  15. Fate, destiny, we call it differently, but the fact is that I believe in a Higher power that governs us all. We have free will, but we also have to step back and let Nature take its course.

  16. True Nibha. We come across situations for which we never know the reasons and it is hard to accept that. But, when we cannot change what has happened, regret will not take us any further.

  17. When it is a situation we cannot change, Jayanta, that is the way forward- acceptance. You know that saying:
    Give me the courage to change the things I can,
    the strength to bear the things I cannot
    and the wisdom to know the difference.

    That applies in your example.

  18. There is always a reason for things…and we may sometimes never know it until the end of our life…it's all these that make our lives! I do like how we wrote about something similar for the letter R. 🙂

  19. Shailaja, I'm truly happy for you that you have not allowed your traumatic past experience to affect you adversely.
    What I am referring to is the tendency of many people to blame victims by saying things like 'punishment for bad deeds in previous birth', etc., thus adding insult to injury.
    I fully agree with you that we must learn from each incident, good or bad.

  20. That's a very healthy attitude to have. We all have our paths, and none of us are insured against bad things happening every now and then. The key is how we react and what we do with them! Hear hear.

  21. “Don't judge them in isolation” you wrote. Is there “a reason” you deleted my complimentary post? The strong, insightful writer you are would let me know how I offended you. Or is it just a glitch?

  22. Hi Kathy. I am not sure what post you are referring to. I have not deleted anything you've posted. I can see a comment above from you saying this: Your lovely words are a comfort to me. I know I will read this again. (My child is growing up too. He'll be 15 in less than 2 weeks!)

    Is there another comment that you posted following this one? I just checked in my spam folder and there is nothing there. So, do let me know.

    Thank you for the kind words.

  23. I guess it was a glitch. It say delete on my iPads under my original response so I was concerned I had offended you somehow. Thank you from letting me know the delete did not come from you. Best wishes, Kathy

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