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Every time someone asks you to recall something memorable that happened to you, it is assumed that you will recall something pleasurable, because it’s the good things that we try and retain. Interestingly, though, some of my most powerful memories of togetherness have been a mixture of sadness and happiness. Why is that so? Is it because we try to look for the good even in the negative? Or are we grateful for the moments of pain that eventually led to pleasure? Β 

Β I am reminded today of an incident, which happened back in 2005. We had just moved into an independent house in a quiet, residential location in North Bangalore. The house was tucked away at the end of a cul-de-sac and the previous tenants sang praises about the many years they had spent there.

Three days after moving in, I was busy setting up the house, arranging furniture, putting up curtains and lining my kitchen shelves with paper to arrange all my crockery. The time must have been around 5:45 in the evening. I heard a sound from upstairs and paused since I was the only one at home, what with V being at work. I shrugged, thinking it was my imagination. Five seconds later, I heard a pounding on the terrace door which led directly into the house and I froze in shock. It took me a whole minute to realise that someone was trying to break in. Warily, I inched forward towards the staircase and looked up to see that someone was trying to break the door open with a crowbar and had already managed to lift the base of the door by an inch.

Terrified, I ran to grab my phone and dialled V’s number. Words refused to form and when he picked up the phone he knew something was wrong. In shock, he urged me to get out of the house, yell my head off and rush to the neighbour’s house for help, while he dialled the cops, even as he raced to get to me as quickly as he could.

Panic had gripped me so tight that I could only scream continuously. In record time, V was there, having rushed through traffic. He ran into the house, grabbed me and hugged me tight as I sobbed against his chest in a mixture of fear and relief flooding through me. In the meanwhile, the neighbours had raised the alarm and scared the miscreants away.

An hour later, as I sipped on a cup of tea V had made for me, he looked at me and said, ‘I think we should move.’Β 

In response, I told him that I felt better now and that we had just moved in, so let’s give it some time. Then, he said and did something I will never forget. He reached out for my hand, looked me in the eye and declared, “We are in this together. I cannot go to work everyday and think about the possibility of coming back and not seeing your face. I need a home with you, not a house.”

In that moment, I knew for sure that we were meant for each other, together and forever. Would I ever want to find myself in that situation again? I can honestly say ‘No’. But it is in the rawness of those moments that our humanity, our optimism and faith emerges and we know, trust and value the relationships we hold dear to our hearts. With him by my side, I can be sure that facing life’s struggles become easier.

Shailaja V

Hi there! I'm Shailaja Vishwanath, a blogger with 12 years of blogging experience and a parent to a teen. I work as a digital marketing and social media consultant. From positive parenting tips to useful productivity hacks, social media advice to blogging advice, you'll find them all right here. Welcome to my blog.


Aparna · March 14, 2015 at 5:53 pm

Awwww. what a wonderful memory that is :). Here's to you and V and lots and lots of happiness!

Shilpa Gupte · March 14, 2015 at 6:00 pm

So true, Shailaja.. We do remember the good times we spent with our loved ones, but, it is the tough times, when we had our loved ones with us, that show us how lucky we all are to have one another. Loved your story!

swati bassi · March 14, 2015 at 7:34 pm

Such a beautiful story, you narrated it so well. With our companion by our side, we can defeat any adversity.

Nabanita · March 14, 2015 at 8:20 pm

Well, it was scary but it also gave you a memory & reaffirmation if faith that is bigger than anything else πŸ™‚ Sweet are the uses of Adversity right?

KParthasarathi · March 14, 2015 at 11:25 pm

You are blessed with such an understanding and caring husband.

kaapitimes · March 15, 2015 at 2:18 am

awww.. so sweet .. Happy times bring us closer, but its the difficult times that cements the relationship.

Chitra · March 15, 2015 at 2:37 am

Beautifully expressed. It's the sharing and caring that makes all the difference in a marriage.

Rachna · March 15, 2015 at 2:43 am

Yes, adversity actually makes the bonds stronger and deeper. God bless you both! Hope you always stay happy. That surely was very scary!

Suzy · March 15, 2015 at 4:53 am

Thanks for sharing such a heart warming moment of your life. You are truly blessed to have such a wonderful husband. Stay blessed.

Shailaja V · March 15, 2015 at 6:41 am

Thank you so much,my dear πŸ™‚

Shailaja V · March 15, 2015 at 6:45 am

Thank you so much, Shilpa πŸ™‚

Shailaja V · March 15, 2015 at 6:46 am

Very true, Swati. In our pain, we discover our endurance. Thank you for reading πŸ™‚

Shailaja V · March 15, 2015 at 6:46 am

Absolutely true, Naba. We don't realise it at the time, sadly.

Shailaja V · March 15, 2015 at 6:47 am

Thank you so much, KP πŸ™‚

Shailaja V · March 15, 2015 at 6:49 am

So true, Lata. That bonding of the relationship is paramount.

Inderpreet Kaur Uppal · March 15, 2015 at 7:13 am

Such a scary experience! God bless you guys.

Sanch LivingLife · March 15, 2015 at 7:27 am

That would have been quite scary but I'm glad it turned out all right and into such a memorable experience. I think that's one of the reasons why I prefer living in apartment blocks…I do get a sense of security that I don't in independent houses. πŸ™‚

Shailaja V · March 15, 2015 at 8:34 am

Very well said, Chitra! Thank you πŸ™‚

Shailaja V · March 15, 2015 at 8:34 am

Still gives me goosebumps when I think about it, Rachna! Thank you for your warm words.

Shailaja V · March 15, 2015 at 8:43 am

I can concur with that wholeheartedly Suzy πŸ™‚

Shailaja V · March 15, 2015 at 8:44 am

Terrifying indeed. Thank you Inderpreet.

Shailaja V · March 15, 2015 at 8:45 am

Actually, post that incident, we started looking ONLY at apartments blocks with 24 X 7 Security. So, yes, definitely something good that came out of it πŸ™‚ · March 15, 2015 at 8:56 am

You are adversity are like best friends, no? And I love the way you always hit it out of the park for a massive SIX! Of course, with help from Captain V, of course. Oh, and Lady Gy! · March 15, 2015 at 8:57 am

*and adversity

Shailaja V · March 15, 2015 at 9:01 am

I certainly think I have been blessed to see things through the eyes of gratitude for whatever happens πŸ™‚ And this particular thing happened before Gy πŸ™‚ But yes, she has always been a critical part of everything.

SHANAYA TALES · March 15, 2015 at 5:11 pm

Totally agree. The good times do leave us with fond memories, but going through a crisis together makes our bonds even more stronger.

Shailaja V · March 15, 2015 at 5:30 pm

Very true, Shantala πŸ™‚ Thanks for reading and sharing as well πŸ™‚

Keirthana · March 16, 2015 at 12:38 pm

Oh my god! That was scary, I have never been in such a situation but I can imagine how terrifying it would be. Thank god for having escaped and having such a wonderful husband.

Red Handed · March 16, 2015 at 2:39 pm

I am a little sick and high on medication. I read this …and the reel started playing in my head. Like a movie and your husband was Gerard Butler.

On a serious note, I am glad you are blessed with such a lovely family.

Priya Mani · March 18, 2015 at 7:28 pm

You have woven a nightmare and fairy tale together. For sure, I wouldn't want to be through that harrowing experience, to hear those priceless lines!!

What do you call a male fairy? Can't call him a fairy godfather, no πŸ™‚

Shailaja V · March 22, 2015 at 6:01 am

Very true, Keirthana. Remembering it gives me the shudders even today. Thank God for a great husband, you said it.

Shailaja V · March 22, 2015 at 6:03 am

I think that is the best thing I have ever heard. I should tell my husband that he is Gerard Butler. Won't that make him feel happy! πŸ˜€ Thanks Red, for reading πŸ™‚

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